Maintaining the Up Keep

So, here I sit.  Writing this post, on my birthday, I just got done having a fight with my lovely wife about where our life is going, and what our next steps are.

What the fuck is wrong with me?  It’s my birthday, and I’m fighting with my wife over where our life is going?!

How did I get here?

Let’s take some time to reflect on how I got here.

I have been really struggling as of late to find passion and purpose in my job.  I mean, I spend my days attempting to figure out how to get people on the internet to click on a button and spend more money.

Seeing how we write a blog about saving and investing money, it grates against every inch of my being. And yet, I feel trapped into it.

Why?

The pay certainly is nice, but really that’s not the reason.  It’s the health insurance.  We aren’t completely free to cover our expenses yet, but we certainly have enough to sustain us for a while.  I just can’t fathom the thought of upping our expenses by almost 20% simply to cover health insurance premiums and have an almost $5,000 deductible per person.

I think the part I’m really struggling with is that I feel trapped.  I haven’t felt this way in a long long time.  We’ve had enough money to walk away from jobs that we’ve hated several times in the past.  Mrs. Wow left to start her own company, and I have walked away from a horrible, horrible company.

But, here’s the thing… I work at a great company right now, so I don’t think it’s the company, I think it’s the job.  I’m not thrilled about it.  There are parts that I find engaging and challenging, but I just have trouble getting excited to drag myself into an office everyday, to spend my limited hours on this earth making bunches of other people rich.

So, yeah, I’m feeling the burnout.  I’ve been doing this for almost 15 years, I guess I’m fairly good at it, judged from all the recruiting calls I get.  I guess it’s valued as I’m compensated fairly well.

And yes, I could find another job, but once the luster of the new location and team wears off, it’s still the same job.  The same thing over and over and over.

Figuring it out

I don’t know what to do about the funk I’m in.

But, I need to figure it out.  There are about a million other things I would rather do with my day than go into the office today. Yet, I go in an attempt to push us further down our path to financial freedom.

I need to get exercising again, and I need to get my head screwed on straight.  And I need to figure out a bunch of things for me first.  I also need to be able to not vent and project onto my wife.  That’s not fair to her and it’s not fair to our relationship.

It’s been written many times before in this space, the money part is easy.  It’s the mindset and the psychology that’s the hard part.  And I think it truly is.

So what do we do about it?

I was talking to someone at work.  And the discussion turned to a task that I need to get done now, only to have to re-do it in a couple weeks.

In my typically cynical, sarcastic manner, I made a comment, “Ehh… it’s tech work, it’s all throw away work.”

Then on my bike ride home, I came to the realization that most everything in life is throw away.  We spend all this time making food, just to eat it and shit it out again.  A house will crumble with out maintenance,  everything needs up keep.  Nothing is ever complete, or finished.  Most importantly you, yourself, are in a constant state of flux.  And you can either deteriorate or improve, it depends on what you choose to do with your day and where you decide to concentrate.

Here’s what I came to realize.  The key is the process, you need to enjoy the journey.  I truly enjoy cooking, and take pride in the results, despite the cyclical nature of the outcome.

I actually enjoy my bike ride home, even though there’s not really an end to it.  I just ride out in the morning and return right back to the same spot in the evening, and do it all over again the next day.  But I love the journey, I enjoy the process of it.

So, with my job, I’m going to try my best to not worry about the boring parts (This is certainly easier said than done), I’m going to concentrate on the problem solving and the puzzles that I enjoy.

With my body, I need to work out more, but I need to enjoy the work outs, not worry about the 6-pack that comes at the end.

It goes with all this finance stuff as well.  I can’t rush and rush to get to a number, so that I can quit my crappy job, just to move on to a crappy life.  I need to get my head screwed on straight, figure out parts of life that I enjoy now and enjoy the journey to financial freedom.

So, I apologized to and thanked my wife for putting up with my pissy attitude.  Because like everything else, relationships are a work in progress, there is place for constant improvement and up keep, and we have to enjoy the process with them as well.

***You can see in the picture up there, I didn’t keep up with the up-keep go on my car tires.  One of the belts was pulling away from the sidewalls and it luckily blew while it was parked.  I’m getting new tires this weekend… Again… maintenance is super important for everything!***

57 Comments

  • Josh December 12, 2018 at 5:09 am

    For much of this post, I felt like I could have been writing it (no wife and my birthday is in two weeks). The new-car smell of my new job has worn away after barely 6 months. I’m settling down into new (higher) spending patterns that are only partly caused by the new job and 2hr/day commute. Car maintenance certainly crept up and now home deferred maintenance is grasping for my wallet. I’m not excited or enthused by much anymore, and the internet is the only place where I can talk with like-minded people about FI/RE/OR/whatever, except for a conference or camp here and there. I’m just in a funk and need to find a way out of this temporary rut.
    Happy birthday, Mr. WOW. May this next year be filled with the things that make the journey wonderful

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    • Mr WoW December 12, 2018 at 5:08 pm

      Hey Thanks! I hope you find a way out of your rut as well. I think it’s one of those things where we know what the right course of action is, it’s just a matter of making it happen.

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  • Gwen @ Fiery Millennials December 12, 2018 at 5:13 am

    Uh…… Happy birthday?

    Seriously though, I really value our friendship because you guys are real people with real problems. Seeing and hearing how you two approach problems set a good example for me on what a healthy relationship looks like. Even good relationships have ups and downs. I burnt out after only 5 years in the workforce. Maybe what you need is a mini-retirement or a sabbatical. You don’t have to do it forever but it would be enough to hit the refresh button (and maybe keep you on their health insurance haha).

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    • Mr WoW December 12, 2018 at 5:10 pm

      Thanks.

      Well, we’re real alright. Just was one of those things that caught me off guard. And I sat down to write about it as a way of venting. Seems like it was relatable. We really have to keep ourselves looking at the process and the progress and concentrate on the day to day. It makes things a lot better.

      You’re valued too Gwen! Good LUCK!

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  • Carl December 12, 2018 at 5:41 am

    Whenever I’m in a funk, I try to switch one or more things up drastically. I force myself out of my comfort zone and see what truths I learn. Maybe I quit drinking (the humanity!), walk 30,000 steps/day for a week or force myself to just sit there and think for an hour (you have a beach, so get your ass down there and stare at the waves!).

    I’m thankful that when I get into these funks, I don’t have a job, so have more time to devote to myself. You’re not far away either.

    Know that the funky times will still come, job or not. However, it’s better when you have the mental bandwidth to deal with it.

    And hey, maybe you just need another trip to Weldwerks???

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    • Adam @ Minafi December 12, 2018 at 7:50 am

      I really like this approach too. Changing something up, even if it’s completely unrelated. There’s something to feeling in control of something else that helps (me at least) focus on what I could I do for the difficult parts.

      And happy birthday man!

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      • Mr WoW December 12, 2018 at 5:16 pm

        Thanks!! Congrats to you as well!

        Yeah I think I need to get back to working on somethings that I was working on earlier, and I need to get back into working out and stuff again. It truly is amazing how much that impacts you.

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    • Mr WoW December 12, 2018 at 5:11 pm

      Hmmm A drastic change huh? Sounds interesting. I don’t know what that might be… any suggestions?

      Also… Weldwerks was good, but I believe both the Mrs and I were partial to Wiley Roots. Maybe you should pick up a part time job there? they could pay you in beer!

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      • Carl December 12, 2018 at 7:15 pm

        I just meant you should switch something up in life. Take your brain on a temporary detour. Take a week off and bike up the coast or hike in Yosemite. If you’re going away for the holidays, stay a little longer wherever you’re going. Come to Wiley Roots and drink beer…

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  • Adam @ Brewing FIRE December 12, 2018 at 6:21 am

    I’ve never looked at my food and thought about it just being an eventual piece of shit. I can’t un-think that now- thanks!

    Sometimes the grind wears us down. It’s definitely important to realize that everything in our lives requires work, and just embrace the journey. Nice post.

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    • Mr WoW December 12, 2018 at 5:13 pm

      Ha, yeah I guess I never thought about it that way… if Shit is just digested food, then food is just undigested shit. Weird how that works. HA

      I guess they wouldn’t call it the “grind” if it didn’t wear on you after a while. Anyway… thanks for the kind words.

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  • Dads Dollars Debts December 12, 2018 at 6:46 am

    I like Carl’s idea about drastic change but it is not sustainable. You need to do something to change it up outside of work but I know that can be tough. No Easy answer here but at least you are aware of the problem

    Oh and Happy bday!

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    • Mr WoW December 12, 2018 at 5:14 pm

      Well it’s not sustainable, until the next drastic change. Which I guess in part leads to keeping things interesting and fresh. Thanks for the wishes.

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  • Susan @ FI Ideas December 12, 2018 at 7:05 am

    You’re working for healthcare. How unhealthy is THAT? What a crazy world we’re living in. One solution is to follow the plan of Millennial Revolution and quit to travel the world. Even for a while. I was at the Greece Chautauqua and they described how cheap the health insurance is when you buy health insurance that covers the world minus the USA.

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    • Mr WoW December 12, 2018 at 5:15 pm

      Yeah it seems a little silly, but it is what it is at the moment. We’ll see that might be in the cards here shortly. Who knows. We just have to figure it out.

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  • Mr. Saturday @ Seeking Saturdays December 12, 2018 at 7:28 am

    Ugh. I feel you. The work thing gets me the same way where the company really isn’t so bad, but the job starts to become unfulfilling and you just want a life change. Turn your passion into a job is easy to say but doesn’t necessarily always pay the same (or offers a health care plan). It’s such a simple solution when the company is terrible and it’s an easy decision to leave. Be careful dumping on Mrs. Wow! Mrs. Saturday would wear me out with one company she worked at. It’s frustrating when you’re the spouse and can’t help the situation but feel the brunt of the negativity.

    It’s eye-opening about the constant maintenance of everything. Working out at a gym, stretching and staying limber, maintaining our salsa dancing skills, eating healthy food, gardening. It all goes into decay without attention. Maintaining what you want in life and letting the rest go is never-ending, but I guess that’s life.

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    • Mr WoW December 12, 2018 at 5:34 pm

      Thanks for the advice. And Yeah, I try my best to keep it away from her. She doesn’t deserve it.

      You’re certainly right, that it’s easy when the company is awful, the decision is made for you. But when it’s not, there’s really no reason to be upset.

      Everything requires maintenance. So we just have to take pleasure in performing that maintenance. I think that’s really the key to the whole thing. Enjoy the process of the maintenance, the end is and will always be fleeting.

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  • Fritz @ TheRetirementManifesto December 12, 2018 at 8:18 am

    I can SOOO relate to this post. In the last 5 years of my career, I was often in a “funk”. I think the patience is the hardest part on the journey to FI. What worked for me was exactly what you’re trying to do, find the things in life that you do enjoy, and focus on those. Depending on how far you have to go to FI, you can either grunt it out and endure, or look to make a more drastic change. I grunted it out, and I’m very happy with where I landed. FIRE is great, but the road to get there can get a bit long, especially in the final few miles.

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    • Mr WoW December 12, 2018 at 5:17 pm

      Words well spoken “the patience is the hardest part on the journey to FI”. Yeah, just gotta keep on keeping on. But have to spend the time to find out what I’m really interested in and what really gets me going in the morning.

      I think I found somethings, just gotta find the time for them. An excuse I know, but true nonetheless.

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  • Mr. Tako December 12, 2018 at 8:50 am

    Happy Birthday Mr. Wow! I think you’ve got your head in the right place now, so no point in giving out unrequested advice.

    But this is the internet. Unrequested advice is what it’s all about.

    So here’s mine: Pick the blue one! 😉

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    • Mr WoW December 12, 2018 at 5:18 pm

      Ahh The Internet, the best and worst of humanity stuffed into one nicely packaged box.

      Blue one… AYE!

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  • Mr Shirts December 12, 2018 at 10:20 am

    Mr WOW – I can relate and we each have to figure out how to deal with these thoughts. I’ve had to work an extra 1-2 years after a life threatening injury happened to Mrs Shirts. It reminds me work isn’t important, but having to extend the date in a job I don’t enjoy can be torture when I let it get to me. My mentor who retired early describes this as the “cheese grater the the balls” period of the career, when you know you’re done but have 1 or 2 remaining financial milestones to hit.

    I’d encourage you to take some time away when you can. Best of luck

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    • Mr WoW December 12, 2018 at 5:20 pm

      I’m sorry you had to go through that, and it’s certainly sobering to think that things for us are pretty damn good at the moment.

      “Cheese Grater to the balls.” Is that better or worse than a poke in the eye with a sharp stick?

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      • Mr. Shirts December 13, 2018 at 5:04 am

        Its okay and normal to not be content with status quo, regardless of position and situation.

        Cheese grater…I suppose that comes from it being less lethal but equally painful than the sharp stick.

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        • Mr WoW December 16, 2018 at 2:59 pm

          Well, a cheese grater to the balls would definitely be uncomfortable. So maybe that’s part of it too. It’s uncomfortable, but you can endure it?

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  • Mr Crazy Kicks December 12, 2018 at 11:04 am

    First off, happy birthday, and cheers!!

    When it comes to the “what the fuck am doing with my life?” questioning, it doesn’t exactly go away with FIRE. If anything it can get amplified when there no longer is a boss who is responsible for keeping you motivated, or giving you a schedule. It’s very liberating, but also leaves the entire responsibility of your time on your shoulders alone.

    I don’t have any kids, and find myself asking what will my legacy be, or do I even need a legacy? As with most anxiety I get, this line of thinking probably eats at me because it has to do with the future. The best solution for me has been to find something fun to obsess over in the present.

    Last year I was all about playing guitar and fishing, but this year I haven’t done a lick of either. I was maybe a bit tired of those hobbies and the motivation wasn’t the same. So I though through other things I wanted to do or learn in life and ended up going down the rabbit hole of mushroom hunting. Now I’m doing photography classes.

    Basically, I’m continuously trying to find that next ball to chase. Even when I was working, I probably stressed a lot less about the future when my mind was occupied with my latest renovation or garden project. In those instances it was actually better for work to be boring, because I could spend that time mulling over the next steps I’d take when I got home.

    Instead of trying to piece together what my life will look like, or setting a big new goal (like FIRE used to be for me,) I’m simply trying to find interests and hobbies that will keep my mind occupied in the present. Where those things are taking me, I don’t know, but if I’m having fun then it must end up somewhere good.

    Maybe you just need a new ball to chase.

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    • Carl December 12, 2018 at 12:26 pm

      “Maybe you just need a new ball to chase.”

      Oooh, I like it! Let’s do a nanobrewery or some other small business.

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      • Physician on FIRE December 12, 2018 at 1:09 pm

        Did someone say brewery?

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        • Mr WoW December 12, 2018 at 5:27 pm

          Yes!! Seeing how we are both invested in them at this point… maybe we should start some weird creepy Nitrous Dino Waffle Brewery. I’m game. It’s a long slog, but I’m sure we could come up with something.

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      • Mr WoW December 12, 2018 at 5:25 pm

        Just be thankful your still have your balls to chase!

        I’m game… nanobrewery. I’ve often thought about getting a part time job at the brewery down the street and starting to learn the processes. Maybe I should. That would be awesome.

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    • Mr WoW December 12, 2018 at 5:21 pm

      Very insightful. And refreshing to know that everyone goes through it.

      I do have a couple things rattling around in my head at the moment. I need to get back to doing those things that I find interesting and passionate about them.

      Thanks for the kick in the pants. It certainly is a weird thing… this life.

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    • wendy December 13, 2018 at 6:49 pm

      whoa, mr crazy kicks, that’s exactly what I try to do… I’m glad I’m not alone in this
      “Distracted from distraction by distraction
      Filled with fancies and empty of meaning”
      -TSElliot

      Mr.WOW – best blog post from you yet!
      that’s some raw honesty … so even if you’re in a funk, at least this post goosed a bunch of us!
      seriously though, find a rabbit hole to fall down and be obsessed with… in some ways, I think it’s harder to suffer through a not-bad-but-unfulfilling job than a seriously shitty job
      happy birthday, hang in there, and go learn to run a brewery – it will keep you out of trouble for a while

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      • Mr WoW December 16, 2018 at 2:53 pm

        I’m trying to find that rabbit hole. I’ll find it, and if I don’t I’ll keep looking and hopefully it will be time to hang it up. But I don’t know that will solve the issue. But at least it will give me more time to figure it out 🙂

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  • TR December 12, 2018 at 11:35 am

    I’m going through the EXACT same thing here in LA. Please update when you find an answer. Is this just the meaning of life thing? Is this the mid life crisis?

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    • Mr WoW December 12, 2018 at 5:22 pm

      I wish I knew… and trust me if I did, You’d read about it here first. Guess we all just hold on for the ride.

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  • Holly G December 12, 2018 at 11:51 am

    Happy Birthday!

    This is so human nature to feel this way. I feel all of the PF community feels this way from time to time. I love how human it is. We aren’t perfect. No one is.

    I’m starting this part-time financial coaching business while my kids are in school and it isn’t easy. I’m trying to remember why I’m doing it. I keep looking at my WHY statement. I want to help people and couples figure this stuff out. The stuff I have figured out.

    Having something to look forward to has always been my way to get out of a funk. My husband and I talk about this often. If it is a vacation, or a family trip or just a movie with the family in the living room. That helps soo much!

    I agree it is the journey! 🙂

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    • Mr WoW December 12, 2018 at 5:23 pm

      Something to look forward to certainly makes it a lot more tolerable. Also, having a why makes it more tolerable too.

      Thanks for the well wishes!

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  • Mrs. Picky Pincher December 12, 2018 at 2:15 pm

    So I’m going to add this as someone who’s come out the other side: it ain’t the job. I quit my fulltime job two months ago and expected everything to be sunshine and daisies. It’s been AWESOME, don’t get me wrong. But the feeling of stuck-ness is still there.

    I think that’s something that will always be there. It’s exacerbated by unfulfilling work or stress, but it’s always going to be there. No matter how good we have it.

    For me, it’s about finding a real purpose in life beyond a paycheck. I haven’t found it yet, but I’m getting closer. I’ve been volunteering at the animal shelter and making more time to see my family.

    You’ll find yours. 🙂

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    • Mr WoW December 12, 2018 at 5:28 pm

      This is both good and bad to hear I think. It’s sobering to know that the end doesn’t really change it. But it’s also very good to know that you are in complete control, it’s just a matter of mind set.

      Thanks for the kind words! And I’m hopeful you find yours as well!

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  • Jacq December 12, 2018 at 8:03 pm

    If it’s possible, consider talking to your boss. I described my work as ‘grading worksheets’ and my boss has actively tried to keep me on other sorts of projects. We both saw that if my day felt like grading homework, my brain wasn’t being put to optimal use.
    Sometimes life milestones like birthdays, or even relative or friend’s death days give us pause to question what the heck have I done / am I doing? And where do we go from here? Faderhead’s song ‘Destroy, Improve, Rebuild’ often comes to mind, sometimes the rebuilding with improvements means letting go of (destroying) what has been.
    Happy Birthday! Wishing you a great year!

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    • Mr WoW December 16, 2018 at 2:55 pm

      I will have to bring it up at some point. But I don’t know that I am looking to take on more of a challenge. I think I am just happy punching a clock for the time being, but I need to figure out what will get my juices flowing.

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      • Jacq December 17, 2018 at 9:36 am

        Sometimes the boss or a mentor can help figuring it out, or what will help with the potential burn out. Sometimes it’s just a week of ‘not -that- task’ that helps. Good luck!

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        • Mr WoW December 24, 2018 at 10:53 am

          That’s a fantastic idea. I’ll have to bring that up in the new year!

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  • FIRE Up The Couch December 12, 2018 at 9:18 pm

    I feel like funks have a way of sneaking up on me. Like all of the sudden I’m pissed at the world and it’s hard to decide why. The good thing is they usually pass, just like food as you so delicately described – “We spend all this time making food, just to eat it and shit it out again.” And with a simple adjustment in your perspective that same sentiment can change to “I truly enjoy cooking, despite the cyclical nature of the outcome.” Hmmm, still funny to my juvenile sense of humor but that sure seems like a nicer way of looking at the same thing. Maybe the prescription for overcoming a funk is as simple as taking a different perspective on certain things that are getting you down? Oh, and happy birthday man!

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    • Mr WoW December 16, 2018 at 2:56 pm

      They do sneak up on you, especially if you are letting the up keep go for a while. All the sudden you have to catch back up.

      Perception certainly is part of the solution. We have to just keep perspective as much as we can. And it’s all in the way you look at things.

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  • Dave @ Accidental FIRE December 13, 2018 at 2:43 am

    “I need to get exercising again”

    Yes. For me it’s everything, and wards off depression. Or at least keeps it milder than it would be.

    The mental benefits of exercise are clinically proven and indisputable. Your bike ride to and from work is a start (and that’s why you enjoy it), but you should start hitting it hard elsewhere. If you’re like me things will start making sense and the suckyness will be WAY less once you really get in the swing of things with your workouts. Don’t focus on abs or how you look in the mirror, focus on how it makes your mind feel.

    You got this dude!

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    • Mr WoW December 16, 2018 at 2:57 pm

      Yes, exercise is certainly something that has been lacking, and I know that it has a huge impact on my well being. So, I just have to get back into it. Unfortunately like anything else, it’s way harder to get back into shape than it is to simply maintain it.

      My bike ride is helping, but I think I need more of that.

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  • Lazy Man and Money December 13, 2018 at 3:31 am

    Would you be able to take a sabbatical or something like that to refresh? It isn’t a fix, but maybe it helps recharge you.

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    • Mr WoW December 16, 2018 at 2:58 pm

      This is most certainly an option and we are discussing what that might look like. We’ll see if it comes to fruition, but it’s most certainly an option.

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  • Amy December 13, 2018 at 10:04 am

    Loved reading this. I came to the same realization the other day: “life is the journey, not the destination”. I was getting frustrated that it seems like every time I figure something out in my life, something changes so that I have to go figure out a new solution. As I’m getting older, I’m realizing that there is no “perfect life” to figure out. We just make daily choices along our journey that add up into our life.

    Thank you again for writing this.

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    • Mr WoW December 16, 2018 at 3:01 pm

      Very insightful. “There is no ‘perfect life'” To add on to that. I think there is a perfect life… and it’s yours. No one else has your life, and therefore it’s 100% unique and perfect in its own way. That doesn’t mean that there aren’t things that we can change and make better, but we are all striving for that.

      Thanks for stopping by, your comment really struck me.

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  • Mr. Refined December 14, 2018 at 6:12 am

    Well…crazy idea…stop doing throw away work? Option one, work a couple more year at a job you dislike. Your wife endures more projection, you narrowly avoid depression and keep you marriage tolerable. Option two, work twice as long at a job you love for half the income but get to enjoy your journey. You might choose to continue doing it after you no longer need the money because work become a source of joy rather than a tax on your energy.
    Two things I have found last long after your lifetime. 1) solving big problems like inventing the light bulb. 2) helping others achieve their goals and better their lives. It sounds like you have FU money and maybe Lean FI too. What is the downside risk? You need more money, take one of the recruiter calls and go back to the everyone else normal daily life. What is the upside potential? You solve a big problem and become a multi-millionaire doing it or help a ton of people and earn the respect and admiration of a large network of people that sing your praises long after your gone. P.S. option three was, tell Mrs. WOW to get her biz off its lazy butt and make profit already. P.P.S. Happy Birthday!

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    • Mr WoW December 16, 2018 at 3:04 pm

      Yeah, I have a rule at work, if we do something 3 times, we need to automate it.

      Working twice as long at a job I love, is definitely an option. But here’s the thing. I actually like what I do… I just don’t like having to go into an office and do it for someone else. I’ll come home and sit and do the exact same thing that I do in the office, and be completely happy. Weird how that works.

      So, as for helping others. One of my passions is coaching, I love it. And I can’t wait to get back to it. It’s a great way to spend your time, and I can only hope that I am leaving a positive impact.

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  • FIRECracker December 27, 2018 at 4:06 pm

    Oops. How did I miss this? Happy be-lated birthday!

    Sorry to hear that you are in a rut. When you say ” “Ehh… it’s tech work, it’s all throw away work.” I used to feel that way too. Code that gets written, get re-written/upgraded every couple of years, so what’s the point? Now, that we’re doing more permanent things (like writing a book), that’s helped my fulfillment needs–but then again permanent things come with a risk too—if it doesn’t sell, it disappears off the shelves, or if it’s not a good book (*fingers crossed that’s not the case*) you’re stuck with having it out there forever. But with anything that comes with a high reward, you have risk.

    I love the way you think about the process, rather than the end result. As with most things in life, we get stuck on the end goal, when it’s the process that really matters. You end up growing and changing so much on the journey there, that when you look back, you realized it really is about the process, not the end goal.

    Happy holidays and hope to see you at Fincon next year!

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    • Mr WoW December 31, 2018 at 1:56 pm

      The grass is always greener as they say. The nice part about this type of work being so fluid is that it disappears after a while and you don’t have to constantly look at your mistakes.

      It most certainly is the process, that’s the part that we need to concentrate on. Just gotta keep perspective.

      Happy Holiday’s and hopefully we will see you at fincon, if not before.

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  • Liz January 15, 2019 at 2:15 pm

    Happy belated…. extremely belated. But I’m behind on my blog reading. I feel your pain. I had a lot of cognitive dissonance about some of the things I did with my job and how it didn’t align with my values. I wrote a list down of the things I liked about my job, and the things I didn’t like. For the things I didn’t like, I focused on how to reduce or completely eliminate those tasks or functions. In some cases, it was just part of my job so there really wasn’t a way to eliminate or reduce them. So in those instances, I thought hard about those things and tried to figure out if there was anything I liked. It turns out, there were *some* things I liked about these things and I also tried to focus on adding value. Somehow going through that exercise helped me immensely. I offloaded some of the crap I hated, found some value in stuff I didn’t like, and overall was able to stave off the burnout and focus on the stuff I enjoyed about my job. I hope 2019 has put some wind in your sails and Cheers!

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    • Mr WoW January 15, 2019 at 7:48 pm

      So, we sat down and talked about it. And it’s worked out really well. Things have kind of passed since then. I don’t know that I am completely over the internal struggle over reconciling my job to my values, but for the time being, I’ll be alright.

      Thanks, and yeah, more exercise is certainly helping a lot!

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